[TrentCrimmIndependent]

It's not just about positively reinforcing children .. which is huge. It's also important to let them express themselves and be authentic. If you tell them they aren't acceptable when they are upset then they will push those emotions down because they want to bond with the parent . What that does is create depression and deep anger in those kids later that comes out in unhealthy ways when it is triggered . Also important to let children feel their emotions in a healthy way and empathize in those moments rather than shame them for it because of how it looks . This is a critical mistake that even well meaning and loving parents make a lot of the time.

Kids can be traumatized even in good environments by well meaning parents just because they aren't connecting with their kid in a way that promotes healthy self regulation of emotions and a feeling of connected-ness or feeling understood