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Originally Posted by CroFlames
I yelled pretty loudly at my 4 year old who drew on our new $4000 couch. Is that 'psychological abuse'?
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I dunno, do you also tell him that he is the R word his entire life, that no one will ever love him as an adult, that even if someone loves him enough to be with him (marriage, partnership, whatever), that eventually they will just want to beat his brains in, take any kids they might have, and commit him to a psychiatric facility, so that they can divorce him and go on to marry someone leaps & bounds better for him? Will you tell his spouse/partner that they should leave him, that he's not worth it, that he will just make them sad/mad/crazy?
How about every mistake he makes, if you're people of faith, do you tell him that he must re-accept jesus into his heart? Do you try & cast demons out of him any time he disobeys?
Do you or will you make him responsible for his siblings behaviour? Will every mistake they make be on him? If they get into drugs, will that be his fault too?
Will you manipulate his siblings against him/each other, so they can't compare notes on what you're doing to him/them, so they never speak up about it until they're adults?
If someone sexually abuses him or his siblings (should he have any), will you tell him "everything happens for a reason, that person is a good christian man, you shouldn't destroy his witness, you should forgive him and act like nothing happened, and for heaven's sake, why on earth would you keep your children away from him, they should get to know their family?"
Will you tell other family members that he's a devil child, will you lie about him to them, making out like he's basically
Damien so they heap scorn and censure on him?
Will you send people to speak to him, after he cuts you off for his own sanity, to plead your case, convincing them that you were the best parent ever, that you have no idea why he'd cut you off, please oh please, make sure my beautiful boy knows I love him and will welcome him back into my arms at any time?
Will you give him birthday gifts like a chocolate bar and a magazine, while he watches his siblings get impressive, expensive birthday gifts, all whilst telling him you couldn't possibly afford anything more than the chocolate bar and magazine for him, to make sure he's fully aware of his place in the family?
I could go on. And on. And on....