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Originally Posted by opendoor
Again, it depends on who you believe, but this doesn't sound particularly consensual if the person is telling the truth:
Same here:
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It doesn't sound particularly consensual, but it may not also be explicitly shut down.
Let's say everything she said is true - okay, block his number. You're under no obligation to open dick pics or text with a guy. Ignore him. If he shows up at your door and you don't want him there, don't open it. Like, there are ways to shut down a creep. Is it uncomfortable? Sure. But you can still do it.
He shows up starts kissing her? I mean, maybe that's his go-to move. I'm sure it works awesome for a rock star a lot of the time. I'm sure some chicks find it hot and exciting. It's not necessarily a terrible move in the right context. That's never happened to you? Like, I honestly don't recall "asking" for permission in my younger years...#### can just sometimes start up and it works for both parties. She didn't like it so she should shut it down. I know that's hard to do, but if you continue texting with a guy you don't like, open your door when he calls on you, allow him into your home after he forcefully kissed you...like...yeah, you're kind of inviting more trouble.
But really, you have him sending you multiple unwanted texts? Why the fata aren't you blocking him? I honestly don't get it.
I do get and acknowledge that he was persistent to a fault, but again, you have a persistent guy (and come on, you know that works for a lot of people interested in notches on the bedpost) and women giving him too soft of a "not interested" when they had way more tools at their disposal to keep him away.
I think this leads to a greater conversation we need to be having with our daughters (and I do have this conversation with my daughter). You owe a man nothing you don't want to give. You don't owe a hug or kiss on the cheek at the end of the date. Literally nothing is stopping you from blocking people on social media, hanging up the phone, not opening a door and not leaving an uncomfortable situation. If you're objections are ignored, call 911 (or me or both).