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Originally Posted by Sainters7
I think this may be the issue right here: the type of people who want to do a destination wedding but also completely expect people to come and will be resentful if they don't are, frankly, selfish. Who cares what those people think.
I'm all for a destination wedding, it's fully what I intend to do whenever the day occurs - I'm not spending $20-30K on a wedding just to keep certain people happy (plus, who really wants to attend a wedding THAT badly? They're awkward, stiff and overly formal). But by NO means would I expect anybody to have to be there. Frankly I basically see it as eloping, with an open ended invitation that you can attend it if you like. Maybe the bride & groom could help chip in a bit for immediate family and a best friend with the cost if they want to be there. And yeah maybe hold a gathering later on when you're back to celebrate with people. I think if that's the mentality of the bride & groom, I just don't see what's wrong with that.
I just think the big classic wedding isn't for everybody. Frankly the thought of being the centre of attention pouring my heart out to my partner in front of over 100 people while dealing with all the excruciating minutiae (and big $$$ for every step) of planning it is cringe-worthy to myself. It's hands down the most overdone, overpriced event in society IMO.
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Agreed.
If you truly want to test the wedding couples intentions and see how true they are, tell them you'll be there but you are going to book everything separately to save money. Aka, book via airmiles or even stay off resort (bonus, you also get to see what the area is really like). Hearing "But then that doesn't save us money" is a quick way for me to turn it into a no altogether.