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Originally Posted by BlackArcher101
I don't really understand the concept of a destination wedding myself. Had an immediate family member planning to do one, but they soon found out it wasn't the best idea as some people they wanted to be there couldn't afford to (me included). Resentment of people you expected to come that don't is a real thing, but so to is the reverse. There is also resentment of people that would love to be there but feel you've made it impossible for them to be. You may say "people that want to be there will find a way" but come on.... you are asking some to possibly wreck their budget for the next 3 years to do it. Especially if they don't consider a resort/mexico a desired vacation in the first place.
To me, it's not a good solution for either making things cheaper (for only the married couple) or a way to weed out people. Instead, just elope if you truly want to save money, go on an immediate honeymoon at the same time, then come back and celebrate with family & friends.
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I think this may be the issue right here: the type of people who want to do a destination wedding but also completely expect people to come and will be resentful if they don't are, frankly, selfish. Who cares what those people think.
I'm all for a destination wedding, it's fully what I intend to do whenever the day occurs - I'm not spending $20-30K on a wedding just to keep certain people happy (plus, who really wants to attend a wedding THAT badly? They're awkward, stiff and overly formal). But by NO means would I expect anybody to have to be there. Frankly I basically see it as eloping, with an open ended invitation that you can attend it if you like. Maybe the bride & groom could help chip in a bit for immediate family and a best friend with the cost if they want to be there. And yeah maybe hold a gathering later on when you're back to celebrate with people. I think if that's the mentality of the bride & groom, I just don't see what's wrong with that.
I just think the big classic wedding isn't for everybody. Frankly the thought of being the centre of attention pouring my heart out to my partner in front of over 100 people while dealing with all the excruciating minutiae (and big $$$ for every step) of planning it is cringe-worthy to myself. It's hands down the most overdone, overpriced event in society IMO.