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Originally Posted by indes
There will definitely be no hurt feelings on our side if people can't make it, it is a big expense and might not be everyone's cup of tea. We've got some immediate family that I imagine we'll be subsidizing.
Definitely appreciate the advice on doing the actual wedding early (early afternoon day 3 is probably a sweet spot) and laying out the expectations of group activities.
We would like to keep it simple, dinner on the first night all together so everyone is introduced if they don't know each other and then a brunch the day after the wedding. Potentially a couple of things we're doing that everyone is free to join us. A big thing is that if people are dishing out for a vacation, we don't want them to be obligated to stuff everyday.
I do get the selfish angle and we talked about it at length. For a few sets of close friends we've dished out easily 1000$ on bachelor and bachelorette parties. We've got another wedding next year and it sounds like me and my fiancee are going to be in for around 3000$ combined to attend their bachelor parties. Albeit living by Edmonton, you can understand why people are up for any excuse to escape haha.
For us with 3 kids, once we get a suite and dish out for the nicer venue, private meal, private bar it looks like we'll end up at the same price we would pay to get it done here. It's not about saving money for us.
Thanks for the tips and experiences! One thing that's leaning us towards the destination is that it seems everyone who has attended one has had a blast and there's not too many negative experiences.
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As a guy, one requirement for me was a suit of the lightest material possible. It was still hot. If it weren't for all the dressing up, I'd have done it at 9am!
My cousin got married in Jamaica on the week Sandy hit. Fortunately the wedding was done by then, and we did still have a great time(hurricane party in the pool with lounge chairs flying over our heads...woooo!) but the marriage went about as well as the hurricane did for New York.