[BlackArcher101]

I don't really understand the concept of a destination wedding myself. Had an immediate family member planning to do one, but they soon found out it wasn't the best idea as some people they wanted to be there couldn't afford to (me included). Resentment of people you expected to come that don't is a real thing, but so to is the reverse. There is also resentment of people that would love to be there but feel you've made it impossible for them to be. You may say "people that want to be there will find a way" but come on.... you are asking some to possibly wreck their budget for the next 3 years to do it. Especially if they don't consider a resort/mexico a desired vacation in the first place.

To me, it's not a good solution for either making things cheaper (for only the married couple) or a way to weed out people. Instead, just elope if you truly want to save money, go on an immediate honeymoon at the same time, then come back and celebrate with family & friends.