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Originally Posted by Table 5
The pinnacle of personal virtue is witnessing people doing small things that bother you, and yet still understanding the bigger picture and not turning into some meddling busybody b*tch about it. Pretty sure Marcus Aurelius said that.
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Mm true.
There are people that see the forest from the trees who have a fairly high bar for what they allow to bother them, and then there are people wandering in the bush getting offended by the trees for existing.
Something that's super freeing is just letting people live their lives even if its not how you would do it and recognizing that a lot of it just isn't your business at the end of the day unless it's taking place in your home or family.
Sure it's always tempting to go to that place where you begin to judge them, though the process of judging when you think about it is you putting them a notch below you in your mind, and while it makes for a good justified sounding rant or joke, at the end of the day you just feel judgmental and that actually doesn't feel very good. And that usually why people feel compelled to share it - they want to be validated for their negative feelings toward a person or situation.
It's amazing how many people have a hard time stomaching the fact that nobody is going to think and act exactly as they do, and most of the time they have no control over that. A lot of people dwell on it and let it consume them and develop these negative fixations, maybe hoping that enough judgmental or disapproving energy sent in someone's direction will make them change. It doesn't, and it just drags you down more than them.
This is why with a lot of minor things I try to catch it early and drop that #### and focus on my own stuff instead. Way better use of mental focus.
I've met plenty of those approachable people that make nearly all their conversations around judging people they work or interact with daily and its just not a good look or way to live. You just know that can easily come back to bite them eventually, and that if you spend time with them they'd eventually rip on you outside of your knowledge too.
Sure.. some things are worth venting about, but personally I prefer being around people that lean towards discussing ideas and interests more than other people (in a predominantly negative way).