I might have made the same mistake of over sharing with a parent, but to me shows the importance of communication management. I believe the following are applicable:
1. It’s your money, no obligation
2. Your mom is overstepping her boundary and risking rift with you. I wouldn’t trust her with discretion going forward
3. You probably should share with your sister. Sounds like your dad was tough and I feel unfair for the children to carry the burden of strained relationships. Your dad should have done the right thing years ago and repaired the relationship before it got this far.
4. You really have no choice at this point to give the money as everyone knows the amount and you will be forever screwed if you don’t. It’s not fair, but it’s not worth it.
You had good intentions, but if you really wanted to keep more than 50%, you will have to be more discrete next time and manage the communication, even if it feels wrong or your concealing too much. Just won’t get it both ways when it comes to money.
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