I don’t think it’s a good idea to continue on your father’s abusive and toxic relationship he had with his daughter. I mean abusive in a more general sense, not necessarily physical, but typically alcoholics can be quite toxic and cultivate abusive relationships with friends and family.
If, as you say, she’s a good person, good sister but was only estranged because your father was an alcoholic, then I think it would reflect poorly on you as a person and a brother to willfully subject to her to one last piece of petty abuse from him.
You should rise above your, to be blunt, rather crummy sounding father.
I also would preemptively reject all notions of you deserving more for associating with him and tolerating his alcoholism and toxic behaviour. While it’s kind of you to maintain that relationship and not abandon him, she shouldn’t be punished for your charity. It’s one thing if one child was a primary caregiver to an elderly parent, then sometimes a more significant portion of assets can be justified but merely maintaining familial bonds with a toxic person isn’t worth punishing someone over. She did what was best for her mental health to disassociate from him. It’s not fair to blame her for it.
To be totally honest, if I were her I’d hire a lawyer if you didn’t share it without being compelled to do so.
I won’t speak to any potential manipulation by your mother. Her also being a potentially toxic/abusive parent, like your father, shouldn’t be a deciding factor when you are evaluating your sister’s stake in all this.
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