My father was an alcoholic and when he died he left his entire estate to his "wife". I was estranged but my brother still had a relationship with him. I expected nothing and that is what I got. My brother expected something and got squat. I made my choice and am fine with it. I feel bad for my brother. Had he gotten something, I would not expect anything.
If your sister feels she should get something, that is the problem you have to deal with. If you want to "purchase her affection" that is what you should do. You don't really state what your relationship is with your sister. If you are close, then you may want to nurture that by sharing. If not, explain she made her choice to not have a relationship and he made his choice not to give her anything, and you are respecting that choice. Do be prepared to become estranged from her and apparently, your mother. Essentially, you have to determine the price of those relationships if you want to be the 'bigger' person. ####ty situation.
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