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Originally Posted by djsFlames
Thats exactly what I'm saying.
Its not an endictment on him as a person necessarily. He's just not a guy in his masculine who is acting upon that essence because he is shying away from his career goals at the end of the day.
A lot of guys don't act on their goals and decide they're going to put family ahead of their goals when they find out that's happening. So they settle on a less ideal situation or position than that they could have reached - in this case, competing for the cup (and becoming a franchise player with records).
It is loving and selfless in one sense, but they're also giving up something that they desire within them in another sense. And guys who give up their career goals in favour of others (even family) are going to be left wanting at the end of the day because they didn't fully fill out the potential of where they could've reached and realise their own potential.
So for Johnny to take this route is disappointing. But maybe Johnny just isn't up to tackling both. And that's what I was getting at.
Do I judge him for it? No. I don't. But I'm not going to pretend that he isn't giving up something that is in the essence of every guy which is the drive to achieve one's goals within their passion. It just is what it is.
He has different priorities now. And that's fine.
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You want to harp on the consequences of prioritizing family over career? Have at it. Although it doesn't sound like you're coming from a position of knowledge or experience so you're not being very persuasive.
But it sure sounds like you place a lot of emphasis on gender in this analysis. You seem to think "guys" are more interested in achieving their goals than anyone else. You also have an incredibly narrow definition of goals.
In another thread, didn't you say you aspired to be a life or career coach or something like that? You might want to start absorbing some different perspectives because you are going to rub a whole lot of your customers the wrong way. That probably won't help you achieve your goals.