Girls in particular are harder to diagnose than boys but she will with your encouragement alone make allot of progress if you just support her.
My 15 year old son was a challenge when he was younger but he taught us so so so much about ourselves and what we weren't capable of doing early on.
What do I mean by that? We stopped trying to protect him and started encouraging him more to just TRY.....try everything !!!
We told him....if you don't like something then stop.....or change it....fashion it to your comfort level but good God plesse don't quit.
We used to jump to his aid/ rescue all the time only to realize we were enabling him and making it a huge issue of co depending. ....as well as what we did to his self esteem by trying to explain , make excuses for him.
Fast forward to today he's very Independent....learning to cook, do chores.....he makes stop motion movies with Lego and WOW.....amazing stuff.
All of this because we didn't get in the way and just observed him , encouraged him and stopped trying to protect him.
He is very social .....but too trusting still. There are so many opportunists out there just looking to take advantage of his youth and innocence.
We love our kiddos ......ive read this from all of your posts and I think it's awesome.
Love is the death of duty. We do all we can for our kiddos but sometimes we do too much and instead end up holding them back.
Let your kiddo figure it out. Let them fail and fail big but don't tell them that's bad.....or they'll regress.
Also.....us parents need help too so congratulations for reaching out. There's no shame in it.
CP is actually a wonderful wonderful place for resources .....good on ya.....don't give up and embrace thr frustration.....your learning too and getting stronger.
When your children see this encouragement and not a over reaction but a response instead it makes it easier for everyone.
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