My wife worked, but her sister has never. Nor has my mother in law. It's just a thing that their family doesn't seem to do except for my wife. Likewise, my mother and father both worked, and we had a nanny who took care of the house until us kids were older. So all this molds my opinion, I'm sure.
If I'm being honest, I think I would harbour a lot of resentment if my wife was home and our house wasn't in tip-top shape, kids were looked after, etc. I go to my brother's house (whose kids are 14 and 10) and their house is an absolute mess. I don't, and never would, say anything because it's just not my place, but I do wonder what the hell is going on all day - there's resentment there on my part, and it isn't even my family.
I have no idea why my brother doesn't feel the same, he does back-breaking work and always has. Then he has to come home and take over the home duties on evenings and weekends.
As for my family, my wife and I shared the duties. We had a woman watch our kids/home for a number of years, but when the youngest was in grade six or seven, we parted ways.
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