This topic is a can of worms. Essentially every family's situation is unique so making general comments on this topic is sure to either upset some or at least be irrelevant to others.
I don't have kids. I don't really plan on having kids. I actively steered clear of potential mates with menial jobs who "couldnt wait to be a mom" because of my opinions on having kids.
IF I was to have kids, i wanted a partner who wanted to go back to work. I didn't want to marry a housewife - but I also understand why some would want that. Also, i understand that some men will agree to it after the fact as it makes their wife happy and they love them so circumstances change. So again, not every situation is the same or consistent.
To be clear, raising kids and doing housework is not for me. I wouldnt want to do it - as a job or otherwise. Also, a husband who works and their wife doesnt has no right to make statements like "its my money" or other comments that demean/negate their wife's choice - something that was at least tacitly agreed to by them.
But, i do feel like modern society has made the role of housewife to be an easier one since the 1950s where traditional family units are no longer required or necessary. Modern conveniences have essentially eliminated many of the standard chores (or chore hours) so there is certainly far more free time for other activities.
There is a reason "soccer mom" is generally a derogatory term in this day and age
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