[djsFlames]

Communicating is hard for people that grew up in homes with passive aggressiveness, stonewalling, and ignoring problems until they boil over. Takes practice like anything even though it will be uncomfortable if that's not "you".

You'll either become more or less platonic roommates with your spouse eventually or you can learn to speak up and listen and still have a romantic spark there years and years later.

Its easy to go the roommate route. You just let natural complacency do its thing. I'd say the vast majority of guys do this. I have myself. They think they can't keep her happy (cause they go about it the wrong way) and give up trying.

But yeah. Don't stop dating even when you live together. Be spontaneous and don't phone in your dates to just stay home. And don't give up your hobbies or routines for her either. Remember there's less mystery now so its essential that you keep doing the things that keep some of that about you and keep you interesting.

Okay, there's my real response.