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Originally Posted by PepsiFree
_ People worry too much about the "intolerant left" or whatever. Really, how often do you encounter someone who is not remotely understanding and will scream at you for using the deadname of someone who is a stranger to you both. You're honestly concerned that in your day to day life, someone will do anything beyond say "Actually, it's Elliot now" if you call him Ellen Page? I doubt it. I run in wildly progressive queer circles, and even then there's a pretty good understand and a pretty good ability to quickly tell the difference between a mistake/ignorance and something malicious (the "malicious" tell is usually what is said around the deadnaming, not deadnaming itself).
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To this point only, I've found the biggest problem to be online. Face to face, the transgender folks and allies I know have no problem with someone slipping up and misgendering or deadnaming someone, as intent is generally easily readable through context.
But online...you screw it up online, and it's around forever and could cause some serious backlash who knows when/if it's found. Especially as intent and context are harder to parse than face to face.