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Originally Posted by Cali Panthers Fan
Uh, sure, but we're talking about cutting people out of your life. I have a very difficult time doing that with my brother who gets into conspiracy theories and is generally a right wing extremist (without the full on racism, so at least there's that).
I have a neighbor who originally is from Texas, and he has gone to painstaking length to discuss politics with his siblings and has even managed to convert their thinking on most issues with gentle conversation and prodding questions, not being confrontational or dismissive of their views. I've tried the same with my brother for years, but it doesn't seem to change him all that much, but there have been glimmers of hope.
I'm just saying, I don't think it's productive to entirely cut people out of our lives. That gets away from having a real conversation and then everyone retreat to their bubble. We have to understand that there are two fact bubbles that inform these distinct views, and we have to work on establishing an agreed upon set of facts so we can discuss things properly again. If conversations continue, we can at least get along without extreme viewpoints. I doubt that I would ever fully convince my brother to see things the way I do, but I do see his position soften when we have a chance to talk it out a little.
The only drawback to doing this? It's ####ing exhausting and takes the patience of a saint. Most people (myself included some of the time) do not have the wherewithal to do this. That's why we're stuck.
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Man, if he’s worth it to you then the answer is obvious.
But “cutting people out of your life” isn’t inherently a bad thing. You gotta do what’s best for your own well being, and the well being of those you care about.