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Originally Posted by chubeyr1
I am still amazed Canadians on this forum think Miller deserves all of this!
Hey, I am one of them.
If this was a Canadian kid, no one would know anything about his past actions as a 14 year old.
Young Offenders act etc.
There is a lynch mob mentality going on here, no Canadian kid would have to deal with. No one would know!
Personally I think the young man is scum. Can he learn from his mistakes? If a 14 year old is not capable of learning why have schools?
What the kid did was horrible. I am just asking which justice system would you want? The Canadian one or the American one.
If this was a Canadian kid there would be so many lawsuits right now.
I am not picking a side here. Not supporting Miller. Yet as a Canadian I am suppose to be fine with never hearing about stuff like this from Canadian boys.
Do things need to change? Are 14 year olds now considered adults in Canada? Our justice system says no.
I am not defending the kid. Our justice system in Canada would. Are we wrong in Canada?
Canadian values would say none of this would of hit the media if it was a Canadian boy.
Thoughts from Canadians?
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I don’t follow your train of thought here.
It’s relatively simple. There is trauma, and there is repair.
The definition of trauma to a child can be “any non-nurturing action.”
By the loose subjectively of this definition we all will traumatize our children and all children will suffer some degree of trauma.
However.
The antidote is repair.
We all make mistakes, that’s why pencils have erasers. When trauma happens to a child,
intended or unintended.
Repair it.
Acknowledge your mistake, authentically apologize so everyone can move on to the best of their capabilities. It’s part of growing up, being the bigger person and being an actual adult.
If he wasn’t able to do this because the parents of the victim would not accept it, document that he tried. Document how/where/when/why he’s tried to repair his mistake and how everyone in their family became a better person in the process.
They didn’t.
He was upfront about trauma that he caused and suffered consequences for but he didn’t repair it.
What Canadian would think that it’s ok to not just simply and authentically say “
sorry” when they recognize severe failure in their own actions AND those actions can be verified with empirical evidence?
This repair didn’t occur. Both he and his family squandered the opportunity to do so.
American or Canadian or Swede or Fin. Who cares. No one needs this behaviour.
Don’t let the door hit them on the way out.