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Azure · 10-27-2020, 05:21 PM

Obviously an emotional issue, but I think this thread is actually pretty good. Some responses about wishing the worst on this kid are over the line though.

I saw and experienced bullying when I was in school as well. Nothing I saw came close to what this kid did. The bullying I experienced went away after a couple years, but even that was tough to move past as I got older. Bullying leaves a mark for a long time, which is why I find it so reprehensible. I also feel that the biggest thing a bully can do is show remorse on a personal level, not just because it shows he cares, but because it helps the kids that he bullied move past the bullying.

That didn't seem to happen here which suggests an issue with the parents, coaches, teachers, etc.

My other issue is the Coyotes. They knew about the issue, and all they would have needed to do is tell the kid that if he wants to get drafted, he needs to reach out on a personal level to make things right. Writing a letter might be okay in some situations, but with this level of bullying I really think the personal side of things would have gone a long way.

Some of the kids I knew in school that were bullies are still idiots, and some have turned into great people. From my experience, those that turned into great people were the ones that reached out to make things right with the kids that were victims of their bullying. Even if those kids had gotten over it, the remorse goes a long way.

I think some people in this thread are not placing enough personal responsibility on what this kid did. At 14 the remorse that he may have shown was like Cliff said perhaps forced on by lawyers, but he is an adult now, and there is absolutely nothing stopping him from reaching out to the poor kid he bullied and making things right.

At the end of the day, that is all it takes. You can't take back what was done, or the damage that it left. All you can do is go and apologize and become a voice against bullying. Has he done that? Doesn't seem like it. That speaks loudly not of his character as a 14 year old, but of his character as a 18 year adult soon to sign a multi million dollar contract.

When it comes to bullying, simply not doing it anymore is not good enough. There needs to be work done to try and fix the ##### that you created.

10-27-2020, 05:21 PM	#228
Azure Had an idea! Join Date: Oct 2005 Exp:	Obviously an emotional issue, but I think this thread is actually pretty good. Some responses about wishing the worst on this kid are over the line though. I saw and experienced bullying when I was in school as well. Nothing I saw came close to what this kid did. The bullying I experienced went away after a couple years, but even that was tough to move past as I got older. Bullying leaves a mark for a long time, which is why I find it so reprehensible. I also feel that the biggest thing a bully can do is show remorse on a personal level, not just because it shows he cares, but because it helps the kids that he bullied move past the bullying. That didn't seem to happen here which suggests an issue with the parents, coaches, teachers, etc. My other issue is the Coyotes. They knew about the issue, and all they would have needed to do is tell the kid that if he wants to get drafted, he needs to reach out on a personal level to make things right. Writing a letter might be okay in some situations, but with this level of bullying I really think the personal side of things would have gone a long way. Some of the kids I knew in school that were bullies are still idiots, and some have turned into great people. From my experience, those that turned into great people were the ones that reached out to make things right with the kids that were victims of their bullying. Even if those kids had gotten over it, the remorse goes a long way. I think some people in this thread are not placing enough personal responsibility on what this kid did. At 14 the remorse that he may have shown was like Cliff said perhaps forced on by lawyers, but he is an adult now, and there is absolutely nothing stopping him from reaching out to the poor kid he bullied and making things right. At the end of the day, that is all it takes. You can't take back what was done, or the damage that it left. All you can do is go and apologize and become a voice against bullying. Has he done that? Doesn't seem like it. That speaks loudly not of his character as a 14 year old, but of his character as a 18 year adult soon to sign a multi million dollar contract. When it comes to bullying, simply not doing it anymore is not good enough. There needs to be work done to try and fix the ##### that you created.