There are lot of comments in this thread about cutting the kid a break... he was only a kid, he had bad influences, bad parenting.... etc.
Although some or all of those factors may be true, almost every single guy I knew as a kid, that was classified as a bully, has remained a bully at worst, or a total jerk that still can't let go of the past into their mid 40's.
3-4 years ago I dropped my motorcycle for some work at an independent shop, and at the counter was one of these guys that treated me like garbage.
"Hey Tim, long time, what is it now 25 years?"
He looks confused, then looks at the work order and recognized my name.
"Oh, hey man, yeah been a while."
Anyway, he writes me up, and I go outside waiting for my ride. I realized I left my gloves on the counter and went back in. They have one of those half open walls to their shop, and I can hear him loudly talking to someone in the back
"Yeah this totally queer Fa***t from my High School just walked in here with his Gay ass Ducati...!" I stood there until he came out, and I just asked for my keys back, and he just smirks and tosses them at me, and I leave. No apology, no remorse, nothing. I suppose it's kinda late for that at that point.
I could have called the owner of the shop and created a fuss, but it wasn't even worth my time. And he likely knows what he has with this guy anyway, and wouldn't do anything. It just wasn't worth the grief.
I see some of these guys that are in my circle of influence on Facebook through other friends, and see some of their posts through the comments my friends make. Most of them are still talking about High School, Babes, how rad Trump is grabbing em by the.... etc. These are guys in their mid-late 40's.
I've learned, if you are a total bully jerk-wad at 14, the odds are against you, and you will likely be one at 18-24-45.... etc. I'm sure a handful of these guys turn it around, but from what I've seen, the majority simply don't.
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