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Originally Posted by DazzlinDino
You sound like a terrific father! I grew up with a disability; I remember as a kid, kids bullying me and putting dry ice into my hands and holding them shut until they were badly burned; Another picked me up while I was standing off of the floor with one finger behind each ear. The pain was absolutely unbearable at the time and I still cringe to think about it. The hurt within cut pretty deep, I remember running home in tears asking my mom "why"? Sadly, she didn't have an answer! As I got older I spent many years traveling to different schools educating people about disabilities. The way to help society is for people like myself to get out and educated others that we are people, that we like being included. I try to remind people that everyone is special, and unique!
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Thanks for insulting my parental skills based on a post.
I have a daughter with down syndrome. She was bullied growing up. When I witnessed it my first instinct was violence. But I didn't go with my first instinct. My second instinct was to take the bully aside and have a private conversation with them. I explained to them that while my daughter didn't act like the other kids, she still felt the same when bullied. I'd then ask the bully what they would think if my daughter was their sister and they saw someone else bullying them. Without fail they'd say they wouldn't like it. Then I'd tell them I don't like it. And neither does she. Then I'd ask if it will stop. Without fail, they'd say yes. Even if they weren't sure if they meant it. Then I'd tell them I was going to hold them to it. And they would. Even the kids I was certain would reoffend. At least with my daughter, they didn't.
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Originally Posted by DazzlinDino
As for the 14 year old I totally agree, however it appeasers from what we know so far that he apparently does not show a lot of remorse. The apology is important because the individual who was deeply hurt needs to experience healing. Too often those who are able, "as normal" look down and frown on those who carry the bigger cross. This is not acceptable, everyone can and should be a positive voice for those who those who can not always speak for themselves!
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You know what kind of people have trouble showing remorse? People on the autism spectrum. How do you know this young man isn't on the spectrum? You don't. And neither do I. So such generalizations about what is and is not appropriate in regards to expressions of remorse is being insensitive to those with such developmental disorders. People are different. We don't have the full story, let's not pretend we do.