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^ thanks, DoubleF

Not putting words in my mouth, you appear to have understood where I was coming from

What we knew from his tweets was that his 1 month old was missing, he expressed hurt, he was hoping the baby was safe and being looked after, and that he would be able to hold her again, that he was at one point not having success via police channels, defended his ex wife and his phrasing seemed like he could have been trying to communicate

There were numerous cringeworthy posts on here, saying things like that he was on something, a bit of an AH, losing his mind, or that he probably in a bitter fight with the mother. Lots of ugly views that appeared to be arrived at hastily, did not appear to consider some other reasonable options, and seemed far from compassionate.

Then posts saying that since it was understood that the baby was with the mother, all was fine, which can very possibly be, well, also wrong.

I mentioned that I hadn’t seen anybody considering an issue that is more common than people seem to appreciate (even more common than kidnapping with ransom notes, but less likely to be discussed openly). A potential situation that was more just sad.

Even then, people still kept going on with a presumptive tone about his mental health and needs.

Most parents have had that incident where they don’t know for a split second where their kid is, and it is a good amount of panic. And usually incredibly short lived, they find their kid within seconds. Often something as simple as the example where a kid sees another family member at stampede and beelines over.

A guy who is missing a one month old making a public plea and showing hurt and panic, using language addressing but not identifying the person with the baby - well, I would not want to step up as the internet doctor diagnosing him with underlying mental health issues

I make no judgment on him or any involved parties other than to give them the benefit of the doubt and would like to see compassion

(And even if post partum issues are not related whatsoever to this situation, I hope that anybody who was unaware of them and their severity, and may potentially be directly or indirectly affected by them, or know someone who could be, has learned something. There can be a lot of challenges parents have that you don’t see between the posting of curated Facebook photos)