While not fool proof there is a lot of information out there about recognizing the signs of suicide. I volunteered at the crisis centre for about a decade many moons ago, so some of this may be a bit rusty, but we had to do these assessments regularly. I would say some of the things to really pay attention to are:
- If someone has made specific plans to end their life. The more specific the more likely the attempt is carried through. Obviously asking about this can be a hard conversation and has to be approached with sensitivity and empathy. But if someone communicates specific plans it is a major red flag. One way we could do this is by asking a question such as "If you were to harm yourself, how do you think you would do that?". A specific or detailed response to a hypothetical such as that is a warning sign
- Similarly, if they have a specific means in mind for how they will do it. Again the more specific, the more danger the person is in.
- Expressions of 'hopelessness' or 'not having a way out'
- If they have done anything to prepare for the end of their life. This could manifest itself in them giving away belongings, and in particular things that are important to them. It could be them attempting to "make peace" with people (e.g. ex's, family, etc) or making apologies. It could be them getting their affairs in order financially.
- Lack of support structure in their life.
It's been a long time that I was doing this, so I don't want to pretend I'm an expert or anything. However, I think we should all have basic "mental health CPR" that we can apply so evaluate if someone is in trouble.
The most important thing is to look for signs, and be there for the person - and yes - intervene if necessary. If your gut is telling you they might be a danger to themselves....act. Acting and being wrong is something you can live with - but not acting and being wrong will live with you.
As others have offered, I too am a PM away for anyone that needs to talk.
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