Don't be in a big rush to jump at the first recommendation. I've seen around 5-6 different counselors over the years with my wife, and they all have different strengths/weaknesses. You will need to try and identify what it is plaguing the marriage, and match a counselor that has the specific skills to drill into it.
In my case we started off with the kid glove approach, and it didn't work. We needed a heavy handed, no nonsense old lady that told us what's what. No sugar coating.
Also consider a marriage contract. It likely won't hold up in court, but the fact you are both committing to signing an agreement with specific boundaries and expectations at least gives you something to fall back on when things go sideways, which they will.
Hopefully it works out for you.
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