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Originally Posted by Itse
That's a tough one. On one hand, friends are important and going out occasionally is a good thing. On the other, well, there's the stuff you talked about.
List of thoughts that come to my mind:
- You might be right, but you might be wrong about them.
- You can't make calls about her friends, even if you're right.
- People who are really irresponsible about their own lives can turn out to be surprisingly good in supporting others in need. If you get a chance to tell one of them something like "my gf could really use some more positive thinking, she's way too hard on herself these days", if those friends are ANY good, it will have some effect.
- Maybe mention one thing to your gf that bothers you the most. In a friendly way. Don't make it "your friends are a problem", but saying something like "sheesh your friends complain a lot" or something like "getting blasted while depressed is not a great idea and you always get blasted with those people and that bugs me, you think you could ask them to take it easy with you?"
In any case I would say this is not likely to be the best battle to pick.
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You're probably right, I think I will focus on other things at the moment, and maybe in the future gently mention that they may not be the best influences.
I could very well be wrong about them too, that's a good point