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Old 12-03-2019, 12:00 PM   #161
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Originally Posted by flamesfever View Post
Right. In my experience the bully will test you to see how much you will put up with. Basically they are cowards, and as soon as you stand your ground they will back off. It not only happens in sports but throughout all aspect of life.
This has actually been studied, and it's generally speaking just a myth.

Bullies are generally less insecure than others, and they invariably have an advantage either physically or socially which they use to beat down on those who try to stand up to them, if they think they'll win. Which is the key part.

Bullies back down from power, either social or physical.

Besides, a bully backing off from you only helps you, and that only in the short term. If the bully stays around they'll either pick a new target or come back at you with a new plan.

It's the so called broken staircase thing; it's better to learn to fix it instead of learning how to avoid falling.
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