Also, I have to say...
I can't speak for everyone, but on every team I have played on as an athlete years ago, I have never worked harder in practice, trained harder on my own, or played harder than when a coach pulls me aside and tells me he believes in me.
Have a coach screaming in my ear? I did just enough. I wouldn't die out there for that coach. I would die for the guy that pulled me aside, gave me a vote of confidence, and told me that I was important.
Maybe some guys need to be screamed at? I don't know. It never worked for me. I bet it doesn't work for most people. Same thing in the corporate world. Have a boss screaming at me as a motivational technique? Never happened to me, but that's not a job I could live with on a day to day basis. It would make me miserable, and I would make sure I find a way to screw him up royally JUST as I find a new job. I will never understand screaming and threatening as a motivational technique. I won't sacrifice for you if I feel you don't 'love' me. Maybe I am just wired weird.
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