As someone who dates / is happily single by choice in my mid 30s, I'll say this - if meeting people is what you're after, don't wait for someone to message / approach you. Be confident and do it yourself, first. Go for what you want and don't wait; just make sure you do it with respect. If you get rejected, don't worry about it and just move on. The key is to be outcome independent. Have an awesome, fulfilling life outside of dating and it's much easier to get to this point.
Twiddling your thumbs and sitting around waiting for someone to contact you isn't a good strategy, and it may never pay off. At least when you approach first (real life or online), you move the process along and don't waste your time.
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