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Sainters7 · 11-23-2019, 02:21 PM

Yeah the texting is annoying. I'm 38 and after what felt like a lifetime of being in a relationship, I've been back in the dating game the past year plus, man it's changed a lot from the early 2000s. Yeah the endless texting is so annoying! In some ways it's a lot easier than those awkward early phone calls that felt like interviews, it's easier to avoid those awkward pauses and stuff. I just hate how it's an endless all day/night thing. Especially right at the beginning, when maybe you've got 2-3 you met on tinder or whatever where you're talking to all of them trying to figure out which one you like best, it's just an endless non-stop text fest the entire day/night. Feel like throwing my phone out the window after a while!

Yeah the ghosting is annoying, I don't know what it's like for women dealing with men in that regard, but at least in my experience some women can be bad for just ghosting out of the blue when I guess they've decided you ain't it...it's a bit cold, I'm guessing that's fallout from this now text-heavy version of meeting someone which is a bit more impersonal. And thus I guess easier in their mind to just cut it off on a dime, rather than dealing with that awkwardness of telling them sorry but I ain't feeling it.

Regarding the ghosting, I think just with tinder and stuff, it's so much easier to meet someone new than it used to be, it's almost like people get ADD with only one person and quickly switch to the new person they just matched with, after a couple weeks or whatever of that other person they've been talking to. A lot more competition for sure, with dating apps. If you've already been out with her and seemed well enough and then suddenly out of the blue she vanishes, especially if you met her on a dating site, there's a good chance she matched with someone new who's currently got her attention now.

11-23-2019, 02:21 PM	#47
Sainters7 Franchise Player Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: back in the 403 Exp:	Yeah the texting is annoying. I'm 38 and after what felt like a lifetime of being in a relationship, I've been back in the dating game the past year plus, man it's changed a lot from the early 2000s. Yeah the endless texting is so annoying! In some ways it's a lot easier than those awkward early phone calls that felt like interviews, it's easier to avoid those awkward pauses and stuff. I just hate how it's an endless all day/night thing. Especially right at the beginning, when maybe you've got 2-3 you met on tinder or whatever where you're talking to all of them trying to figure out which one you like best, it's just an endless non-stop text fest the entire day/night. Feel like throwing my phone out the window after a while! Yeah the ghosting is annoying, I don't know what it's like for women dealing with men in that regard, but at least in my experience some women can be bad for just ghosting out of the blue when I guess they've decided you ain't it...it's a bit cold, I'm guessing that's fallout from this now text-heavy version of meeting someone which is a bit more impersonal. And thus I guess easier in their mind to just cut it off on a dime, rather than dealing with that awkwardness of telling them sorry but I ain't feeling it. Regarding the ghosting, I think just with tinder and stuff, it's so much easier to meet someone new than it used to be, it's almost like people get ADD with only one person and quickly switch to the new person they just matched with, after a couple weeks or whatever of that other person they've been talking to. A lot more competition for sure, with dating apps. If you've already been out with her and seemed well enough and then suddenly out of the blue she vanishes, especially if you met her on a dating site, there's a good chance she matched with someone new who's currently got her attention now. Last edited by Sainters7; 11-23-2019 at 02:34 PM.