[Wookie]

Originally Posted by Flames_Gimp

hey, she sounded pretty desperate to go out after saying she would if she didnt have a bf, then saying she could go for drinks... sounds like maybe she would rather date you!

Dont give up!

Hehe, yeah, although I'm not really 100% on how it sounded, since I was just kinda playing it cool

Originally Posted by Grunt

You're the man, Wookie - good job on asking her out. As for her response... as others have said, it kind of sounds like she might just have a "Mr. Right Now" and just blurted out the "i have a boyfriend" thing without thinking, sort of as a defense against all of the other guys that likely hit on her all the time. Then when she realized that it was a guy (you) who she might actually have interest in, she backpeddled hoping you would still be down with getting a drink.

The good news is that your next step is easy... you can either a) talk to her again and meet up for drinks (which you know she will agree to), or b) don't give it another thought and move on to the next one. Definitely a "good" kind of problem to have, as there is no pressure anymore.

I just recently got back into the dating game, and would agree that "The Game" is an excellent book. Also, check out "Double Your Dating" (online ebook) by David De'Angelo. This stuff is solid gold.

My approach to meeting women and dating changed the day I decided that this is MY reality, and -I- am the chooser not the choosee. I already know I'm a catch, however I don't yet know if that cute girl across the room is a good one, or a psycho. The only way to know is to just go for it and see what happens... the worst that can happen is that she rejects you, and even that can be pretty fun sometimes (especially if you get a good story to tell your friends later). It's all about how you frame things.

So yeah, if you want to see this girl, then see her. If you don't then don't, that easy. My opinion is to go out for a drink with her and see what unfolds... this will resolve any unanswered questions, as you'll either keep seeing her or you won't. Fun times either way :P.

Lol, thanks.

I'll probably just keep being chatty, no pressure, see how it goes.. kinda play it conversation to conversation... Try to gauge what she's thinking, I'm sure if she's interested I'll be able to tell.

Originally Posted by Buff

I voted for finding another hottie before I read her response to you. It sounds like she is interested in you. Likely it was a good choice to not to immediately take her up on going for drinks. It would show her that you respect her relationship with her boyfriend.

I say ask her out again, and if she asks why you changed your mind just tell her that her previous reponse gave you the idea that she either doesn't have a boyfriend or the relationship is almost over.

Yeah, I've thought she seemed interested the whole time. Although that can be misread for someone who is genuinely friendly, which was why the initial wondering about asking her out.

I'll probably keep up on it, but passively.

Originally Posted by Hack&Lube

She sounds like she is interested. Tentatively, you can't really do anything. Just stick around and be friendly and cool if you're okay with that. Things may change but I don't suggest you ask her out again. It's her call now. All you can do now is insidiously stick around in her head as an option.

Agree - can't really do much until I see how she's going to act. If she's interested there will have probably been some thinking on her part and I might be able to get an idea of what it is.