You're the man, Wookie - good job on asking her out. As for her response... as others have said, it kind of sounds like she might just have a "Mr. Right Now" and just blurted out the "i have a boyfriend" thing without thinking, sort of as a defense against all of the other guys that likely hit on her all the time. Then when she realized that it was a guy (you) who she might actually have interest in, she backpeddled hoping you would still be down with getting a drink.
The good news is that your next step is easy... you can either a) talk to her again and meet up for drinks (which you know she will agree to), or b) don't give it another thought and move on to the next one. Definitely a "good" kind of problem to have, as there is no pressure anymore.
I just recently got back into the dating game, and would agree that "The Game" is an excellent book. Also, check out "Double Your Dating" (online ebook) by David De'Angelo. This stuff is solid gold.
My approach to meeting women and dating changed the day I decided that this is MY reality, and -I- am the chooser not the choosee. I already know I'm a catch, however I don't yet know if that cute girl across the room is a good one, or a psycho. The only way to know is to just go for it and see what happens... the worst that can happen is that she rejects you, and even that can be pretty fun sometimes (especially if you get a good story to tell your friends later). It's all about how you frame things.
So yeah, if you want to see this girl, then see her. If you don't then don't, that easy. My opinion is to go out for a drink with her and see what unfolds... this will resolve any unanswered questions, as you'll either keep seeing her or you won't. Fun times either way :P.
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