I was a single Mom when I met my husband. Our wedding ceremony included my daughter, as it was important to me that he understood we were/are a package deal.
Since then, I've also come to the realization that children do well when the parent(s) are happy. If having a girlfriend, or possibly a future wife is important to you, then you must also make time for that, because it will make you happy.
My children are number 1 in my life, but my happiness doesn't come second. The two are not mutually exclusive. My happiness is their happiness and their happiness is mine.
That said, her unenthusiastic response to you having a child probably told you that you were barking up the wrong tree and it's no skin off your teeth to end things quickly and with clarity. Keep looking - the real one is out there.
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"When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap."
- Cynthia Heimel
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