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Originally Posted by Reggie28
I would think long and hard about this before you bring it up. I have broached the subject a couple of times, and it went over like a lead ballon. The responses were “I can’t believe you don’t trust me”, “Do you think I am after your money?”, “I don’t want your money, but I’m not signing a pre-nup”. Once it is out there, there is no putting the toothpaste back in the tube.
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Certainly you want to consider how you discuss the topic (certainly consider how it will be received and perceived), but any hesitation on whether or not to discuss it should be a red flag. It may not be an easy or comfortable discussion (an emotional reaction on either side is not unreasonable), but whether you can eventually resolve the discussion sensibly is a pretty good test of whether the relationship is in fact likely to stand the test of time. Approaching it as a 'discussion' is critical - it is for the benefit and protection of both parties...while it shouldn't necessarily be a 'negotiation', both sides should be willing to compromise.
It boils down to being a simple 'insurance' condition that helps one (or both) parties feel more comfortable. If the other person can't engage with the idea of compromising their own ideals to do something beneficial for their partner, then it's usually not a recipe for success.