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Originally Posted by Jiri Hrdina
My wife and I went through a miscarriage
The wounds never fully heal. It becomes part of who you are as a person, individual and family.
I take comfort knowing that if we had not gone through that, we would not have my daughter. All paths lead to her - which is what matters to me.
It happens to a lot of families, and is talked about not enough. And when it is talked about some of the things people say are so ignorant.
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People go through it in many different ways. I think it's also important to voice that it's okay if it's not a life-changing tragedy for you. I had a big fight in the past because certain family members made me feel as if I wasn't feeling sad enough about the whole thing.
Maybe some people appreciate the effusive condolences. But for some, it can instill a shame that you don't feel like you need the condolences, and you wonder what is wrong with you.
For what it's worth, I really like your attitude - "All paths lead to her". Absolutely. Bang on.