with the separate accounts what happens when some one just feels like buying a bike and does and the other feels like taking a trip that the other now cannot afford? I have seen this happen on more than one occasion with none of the couples still together. Anecdotal I am sure but that has been my experience. My wife and I are joint and have been for 20 years with no issues. I supported her for over 15 years and now she makes more than me but nothings has changed. Money goes in, money goes out, we talk about almost all of the expenses especially the big ones. There's no his or hers involved.
I get this is a very individual thing and what works for some will not work for others. But I think the key that just about everyone has mentioned is communication. Neither split or joint will work if you don't talk about things before, during and after.
Wife's father lived far away and I had never spoken to him up until a few months before the wedding. Knew the mom well but we had been together for quite awhile before marriage so the whole marriage thing was just a formality.
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