Thanks for sharing your story. So many people with different backgrounds from different situations all share a similar story. Putting those three little words together and coming out was probably the hardest thing I ever did, at the same time it was also one of the most empowering things I've ever done.
It saddens me to see that there is still homophobia so rampant in our society, especially in this thread.
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Originally Posted by ben voyonsdonc
Here's my story:
I am a gay man. I am just like every straight guy out there... I like hockey, football and other typical "guy" things. However, I don't feel any sexual attraction to women. I don't have HIV and am not any more promiscuous than any straight guy. I have known that I am gay for a long time but it took me a long time to be able to put those three little words together...I AM GAY.
One of the main reasons it took me so long to come to grips with my sexuality is that when I was 17 I became a born again Christian. As a result, I have a pretty good understanding of how Christians feel about homosexuality. As a result, I have lost my faith in many Christians but I haven't lost my faith in God. I have moved away from formal Christianity to a more personal relationship with Christ.
I always worried about how my family would feel about me after I told them. After coming out to one of my friends he told me "You have always been a good son to your Mom, you have always been a good brother to your brother and sister...after you tell them you are gay they will see that you are still a good son and a good brother but you will be a good gay son and a good gay brother." He was right. My family and friends still love me for me and not for my sexuality. It took them a while to "get it" but my realationships have been stronger than ever with them.
This post is getting long!! Anyways, I am just like everyone else on this board...except the Oiler fans...those guys are the real degenerates! 
I want to live my life and feel accepted by society like anybody else. Separate is not equal. A civil union is not good enough because it creates a needless division between gays and lesbians and the straight society. I will never go to my old church and demand to be married there...I understand their right to disagree with gay marriage and would not want to have to deal with the disapproval. A religion can still only recognize only striaght marriages but the government does not have that right. A government is bound by the constitutional rights of its people and not by a particular dominant religion.
Thanks for reading my long post. I would be happy to answer any of your questions about my experience. |