[Northendzone]

i think that it is reasonable to put some thought into how much per person is the wedding costing and provide that plus at least $75 as a minimum.

i also can't help but think that if you are thinking about the gift that hard, then maybe you should have turned down the invitation in the fist place.

i would also hope that in second/third marriage situations, that the happy couple is getting smarter and spending less on day of their lives.

but all this is coming from a guy who got married on the short of lake invermere in february with my sister and brother in law only there because we were too cheap to do anything more - like a wine and cheese/dinner somewhere.

i personally can't fathom people (like some of the ones on tv) that drop $50k or more on thier special day nor would i be excited as a parent to deal with an expectation to fund the wedding of my children - unless they wait until they are at least 30 to get married.