This is terrible news. Absolutely terrible.
Back in 2002 I was a passenger in a car accident and subsequently trapped as it burned. The driver survived, but another friend and colleague in the car died.
The whole thing flat out sucks on so many levels. There's waking up in the hospital a week later, but having over heard bits and pieces. Learning a friend died. Not even remembering who drove, so relief it wasn't you. Then there's the incredible support of family, but knowing that they are suffering in their own worst way - getting that phone call from the police, the days of coming to see you as you are. Then the slow change from anger to compassion and forgiveness with respect to the driver - an accident but some fault. He still lives with those memories.
So my thoughts are with the parents, siblings, all the relatives and friends. Look after each other. My thoughts are with the survivors of the crash, you will be processing this for the rest of your lives. Many will carry constant reminders of it - it took me years to regain the instant recognition that the reflection in the mirror was "me".
And for those that died. So sorry to hear you won't reach your goals, live your lives. So sorry your family and friends won't be able to see you grow up.
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