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RedHot25 · 02-19-2018, 08:55 AM

Thanks everyone.

A lot of the feedback in general is what I assumed. I guess, regardless by the yes its family/just stuff/I have other space in my house/etc, I'm just struck by the apparent disrespect/being taken advantage of feeling.

We are long past the stage where we have reminded them about their stuff, whether joking or asking them to clean up. We once had a huge house of company come over (long after they had moved out), so we had to clean the bathroom they had used. My wife had to spend 1 - 1.5 hours doing that, and she informed them about that. Still nothing. They said they would get it over Christmas break. Nothing. They'll get it next weekend. Nothing.

Anyway we've done some cleaning (can't leave random bottles of open pop, or full bin of stinky garbage), moved a portion of it into one room, etc.

But its their stuff, and their mess.

Its just that still nothing. I voice my displeasure to my wife, who agrees but she just bites her tongue regarding it. On some occasions seeing them I joke about abandoned goods, but often in response to them jokingly bringing up how their stuff is still there, or just in the general flow of the conversation.

One recent time they were back over they saw that their child had drawn (in pencil) all over the top of a white chest we have. Did they clean it? Nope, instead the commentary was about what their child is trying to say in that drawing.

Or, another time they were over visiting (actually for the same occasion as my wife did the bathroom cleaning), and their child went into the room and came out wearing multiple different outfits (because a lot of her stuff is in there). Still nothing, their stuff has remained.

Anyway I'm torn between just packing it all up and dropping it off at their place to be done with it, but at the same time then I've done all their work for them. I do like the donation idea, as if its been 6 months and they don't seem to need most of the stuff, someone else who does could certainly use it.

But instead, we will likely sit here, biding our time until they randomly (ever?) show up to take their stuff.

02-19-2018, 08:55 AM	#24
RedHot25 Franchise Player Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Probably stuck driving someone somewhere Exp:	Thanks everyone. A lot of the feedback in general is what I assumed. I guess, regardless by the yes its family/just stuff/I have other space in my house/etc, I'm just struck by the apparent disrespect/being taken advantage of feeling. We are long past the stage where we have reminded them about their stuff, whether joking or asking them to clean up. We once had a huge house of company come over (long after they had moved out), so we had to clean the bathroom they had used. My wife had to spend 1 - 1.5 hours doing that, and she informed them about that. Still nothing. They said they would get it over Christmas break. Nothing. They'll get it next weekend. Nothing. Anyway we've done some cleaning (can't leave random bottles of open pop, or full bin of stinky garbage), moved a portion of it into one room, etc. But its their stuff, and their mess. Its just that still nothing. I voice my displeasure to my wife, who agrees but she just bites her tongue regarding it. On some occasions seeing them I joke about abandoned goods, but often in response to them jokingly bringing up how their stuff is still there, or just in the general flow of the conversation. One recent time they were back over they saw that their child had drawn (in pencil) all over the top of a white chest we have. Did they clean it? Nope, instead the commentary was about what their child is trying to say in that drawing. Or, another time they were over visiting (actually for the same occasion as my wife did the bathroom cleaning), and their child went into the room and came out wearing multiple different outfits (because a lot of her stuff is in there). Still nothing, their stuff has remained. Anyway I'm torn between just packing it all up and dropping it off at their place to be done with it, but at the same time then I've done all their work for them. I do like the donation idea, as if its been 6 months and they don't seem to need most of the stuff, someone else who does could certainly use it. But instead, we will likely sit here, biding our time until they randomly (ever?) show up to take their stuff.