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Originally Posted by RedHot25
Ok, I need some advice. Even if it's just some solace...
My sister in law, her husband and child (under 10) returned to Calgary from living out of country for a very long time. We let them live with us until they could find a place, get settled, etc. They came in spring- early summer, and lived with us (entire basement) until early fall.
My problem is this: they moved out probably 6 or so months ago, yet a lot of their stuff did not. And when I say a lot of their stuff, I mean most of it. They live in the city yet left their 2 bedrooms at our place a mess, half drank pops, bed unmade, clothes still in dressers, closets full hanging with their stuff, etc etc...
So, what do I do? Its the point now that they even joke about it...yet their stuff remains. I have 2 rooms in my house that are useless because of their stuff. They even joke about the space they have at their new place, if I wanted to bring some of my stuff over to store. They didn't ask if they could leave their stuff behind at our place, they didn't put it nicely in a corner, etc...they literally just got up and left, and left their stuff randomly wherever it was. Its most bizzare...
Is there anything I can do? Or since its my wife's family just grit and bare it until they randomly one day take all of their stuff. I find it very disrespectful, lazy and selfish (they have renovated their new place no problem, and have way more space then us). I Just don't understand.
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They know what they are doing. At the end of the day, they are taking advantage of you. And if they are making jokes about, they think you are a sucker.
1) Yes, clear it with the wife. You may need to stress how its important to you or help her see that she is being taken advantage of as well. But get her on board.
2)I wouldnt play any games with passive/aggressive behaviour or making excuses for why you are doing this. You arent a storage facility. Pack their junk up today. Load it in your vehicle and drop it off at their place. Then its done and your not wasting any more energy thinking about this.
If you wanted to play games, then Id just toss that #### in the garbage. Its obviously junk that they dont need or use if theyve left it there for months. But then you open a whole can of worms with relations with the inlaws.