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Originally Posted by The Familia
Just curious, why did they go on to have three children then? I'm pretty sure you know full what you have gotten into after the first. It doesn't get easier with more children, it gets harder.
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3rd one was an accident. But she thought that having kids would make her feel fulfilled and accomplished at some point. Almost like things would eventually come together and make it worthwhile. But I guess the opposite happened. She's a great mom, make no mistake. But she said she's always thinking 'what if' or 'what could have been'. Can't go out with her friends that often, so her social life took a dive. Can't go on any dream vacation, so it's only local places she takes them. Just other fun things that other people can do that help contribute to a positive life, she can't do.
Didn't help that things didn't work out with her husband and they are now seperated and apparently he's a small contributor in the kids' life. But even then, when she was young she dreamed of the family life. But as she got older and matured, she eventually realized it wasn't what she thought it would be and she feels stuck now.
I'm 33 and don't have kids. Eventually I do want them. But I'm also glad I don't right now because I'm at the point where I make enough money that I can do the things that I want, that I know I won't be able to do when I have kids. When I was younger I always wanted to be a younger parent like my parents were. But as time has gone on, the best thing I ever did in life was living for myself and putting parenthood on the backburner for now.
I also think it's different for men then it is women. Men can jump into parenthood at older ages. But women are made to feel that they have a biological clock that is ticking and they have to have kids before they physically can't anymore.