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Originally Posted by GGG
This jumped out at me. Actual parenting is pretty easy once you drop out all of society's expectations on you. In terms of time commitment it can be managed. You just have to make the choice to be an adequate parent and not the perfect parent. And to ensure that you take time for yourself to do the things that you want even if it comes at the expense of something your child wants.
I'm not saying that people shouldn't regret having children and some do it much more sounds like they regret how they allowed the institution of parenting to affect their life.
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I asked in a different thread whether or not you have children and didn’t get any response. Based on these types of posts I’m starting to think the answer is no.
Parenting isn’t easy. You are on call 24 hours a day 365 days a year. If you get sick or hurt there’s no sick days where you can just phone in. Sure your spouse can help in those cases by taking time off, but even then there’s only so much you can do because you still need an income to live and raise kids. Every kid has their individual needs and in many cases there are children with special needs who require even more attention. Being a single parent has even more challenges because you don’t always have someone to rely on when the going gets tough. Try telling a parent of a colicky baby or of a child with special needs that what they’re dealing with is easy. Or even a parent not dealing with those issues who works a regular 9-5 but has to run around all weekend going to birthday parties or lessons. When you have kids it’s not like getting a pet. You don’t always have time(or money, raising kids ain’t cheap) to go for a beer with your buddies as you please or to have as many hobbies, which are essential for most people to keep their stress levels in check. I have 2 children and by no means find parenting overbearing and even if I did nothing could ever make me regret having children, but to call it easy is a pretty broad(and in my view very inaccurate) statement.