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Originally Posted by CliffFletcher
There is another side of the equation here which doesn't get talked about a lot - the allure of status. We know why and how the powerful abuse their status over those weaker than themselves. We don't talk about why people initiate sexual and romantic relations with those who have higher status.
Let's set aside professional advancement. Does anyone think Anasari's dating life would be the same if he worked at Staples? Why does the bassist for a world-famous band have far less trouble finding partners than the bassist for a local band? Why are there far more enduring, happy marriages where the husband is significantly older than vice-versa?
This is complex stuff. But we can't understand it if we pretend that all relationships with power disparities are initiated by men.
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This is a fantastic side of the equation to bring up.
The allure of status is not so much the status itself it is rather the personality traits that lead to status (Ambition, Strength, Passion, Dominance, Charisma). These are very alluring traits to people and very seductive to women. I know peeps will call me an MRA again if I say it, but really it is the allure of being an alpha male.
Aziz Ansari would not have much of a dating life at all if he was not famous, actually I am not even sure what kind of dating life he has right now in his comedic fame. I know we just finished discussing his horribly crappy date.
The bassist from a world famous band having more of a dating life than the bassist from a local band. Probably the notoriety and widespread knowledge of the band, the more people who know of you who you are the more people could possibly be interested in you. I bet the bassist in the local band is doing just fine though as long as he has attractive personality and looks.
Your next point is also interesting, I have never thought of that much before, but men who are older are more worldly through their experience and experience teaches us a thing or two. Women love mature men, men who know how to treat them, men who aren't insecure, aren't whiners, are strong and are loyal, men who can handle their own crap. A lot of women find these traits in guys who are a bit older than them. I know I am a much better man now than I was when my name hockeyboy2 made more sense.