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Originally Posted by snootchiebootchies
I have to think some of those first date rules of thumb we learned in University and during our early-20s (never sleep with someone on the first date, confine the date to a neutral/public location, do not get drunk on the first date, etc.) would have helped both parties in the unfortunate Anzari case.
But the woman may have been comfortable going to Anzari's place because she thinks she knows him already because of his TV/public persona (funny, witty, harmless). This may have contributed to her discomfort because the real Aziz is likely not the same person as the TV Aziz.
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Rules of thumb are for people who need their thumb to tell them what to do. I do most of the decision making and talking out of my bum, but it has become a knowledgeable bum over the years and a lot less stinky.
One thing I have learned is that everything is situational, there are times where you can definitely sleep with a woman on the first date, meet at your apartment and even get completely hammered. There are of course times where all of the above that we both mentioned is completely unacceptable. Its all about reading the situation correctly and reading how much the girl is in to you.....and knowing how to act like an attractive man yourself....all in all it is about knowing attraction and understanding people skills.
The woman agreeing to go to Aziz house is nothing but nativity for that woman if she thinks she somehow knows him because of TV. This is not up to Aziz this is up to her to make the decision that she feels comfortable with.
Also I re read the article and darn for a guy who wrote a book called "modern romance" his seduction skills SUCK and definitely contributed to the train wreck which is that date. You let her come to you, you do not glom all over her.