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Originally Posted by Matata
This is just lame thought policing. We're talking about chatter on an internet message board that could never affect anyone involved, the only thing accomplished by tip toeing through the tulips is stunted conversation.
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Disagree wholeheartedly.
The problem is that steam rolling into THIS societal conversation without precise wording can have the exact opposite effect that you are trying to elicit. You need to tip toe through the tulips or rather determine the correct language to use.
Yes even on a discussion board. We need to learn HOW to phrase the questions in a sensitive manner that does not have even the appearance victim shaming. You don't learn how to phrase questions at times you deem "important" by not using the correct phrasing in the unimportant times. You can't answer 1+1 = 2 on the test if you spent your entire time practicing 1+1=3 because it wasn't important enough to learn the real way to do things before.
I also disagree that the phrasing on a message board conversation could never affect anyone. Message boards are a place where people SPECIFICALLY go to for support and information. Do you know who is browsing the thread? Do you know that there isn't a harassed person perhaps gaining some courage through supportive posts that then reads something that does appear more as a blame statement (intended or not) and loose that courage.
And goodness knows I have said a good many insensitive things in my life that were not intended that way. I'm certainly not perfect and I'm not pretending to be. But I think in this case it has been pointed out quite well that there are alternative and much better ways to phrase things. That shouldn't be fought against. It should be embraced as a learning experience.