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Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz
There are 3 pretty easy things guys can do to help fix this issue:
1) Don't harass women
2) Say/do something when you see something happening
3) Foster an environment where women feel comfortable coming forward
I don't think you're a bad person, and I would bet a lot of money that you would 100% of the time do the first 2 things on that list. I just think you need a little bit of work on #3.
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I still don't think it is unreasonable to question why it was that she didn't come forward. You can't get to #2 and #3 without that. And we can't even discuss it without getting called insensitive. I get the feeling a lot of guys might like to understand more, but when I feel like I'm walking on eggshells even mentioning it, how can we foster a discussion around it? So if your point is to crap on people who may be looking for understanding around it, and why it worked well in one case(that I provided) I don't think you should be beating me over the head with my questions.
Would I ever ask that directly of someone who was abused? Of course not. but it seemed a good jumping off point to know what could possible compel someone to put up with that much abuse for 3 years. Hell, you said it yourself, you wouldn't stay in the position. So why did she? What was different in the Jason Nixon case? I'd love to see more of those come to light because it tells the abuser they won't get away with it, and the abused that coming forward doesn't mean getting ignored.