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Originally Posted by Fuzz
I had a bit of a response typed up, then I read this:
You are being extremely unreasonable and projecting me as some sort of monster. I'm not going to continue a discussion with a person who would say something like that about me, knowing what little you do. Good day, sir.
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I'm not projecting you as a monster, I'm quoting you directly and asking you if you honestly think that is a productive and supportive way to react to someone coming forward about these type of experiences. At most I think you're being insensitive in this particular matter.
Whether you intend it or not, I don't think your responses are the kind that make people uncomfortable coming forward when they've been harassed or worse. If you'd like to explain why I'm wrong I'm all ears, but so far, all you've tried to do is justify your initial response, which was to question the actions of the woman in the article.
Does that make you a bad person? Not necessarily, but I do think it means you don't really understand the issue the way you think you do.
The truth is no dude can really understand this issue as well as any woman who has gone through it, and that's why it's so important we don't focus on what the women have or haven't done, and instead focus on how it was allowed to happen to them, and what we can do to make sure it doesn't happen again.
And finally, the easiest thing we can do is to make sure that those to whom it does happen feel comfortable coming forward, and part of that is making sure the first thing they hear isn't "Why didn't you do X?".
There are 3 pretty easy things guys can do to help fix this issue:
1) Don't harass women
2) Say/do something when you see something happening
3) Foster an environment where women feel comfortable coming forward
I don't think you're a bad person, and I would bet a lot of money that you would 100% of the time do the first 2 things on that list. I just think you need a little bit of work on #3.