[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by Matata

If you make discussion over her reasons for staying taboo, then you cut out a huge part of the equation and it becomes impossible to understand the root problems in a nuanced way. Good analysis breeds good solutions, but good analysis is impossible without good data.

Yup, and no one is trying to do that. In fact that is probably the most important part of the conversation.

But framing it as "Why didn't she go to HR?" can come across very differently than "Why didn't she feel she could go to HR?". One is implicitly shifting the blame to her, the other is placing the blame squarely where it belongs, on the people who allow these types of things to continue.