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Originally Posted by wittynickname
Women are being made responsible for men's inability to develop social skills. While there are women who are absolutely guilty of being crass, of harassing others, assaulting others, etc, it's not as common as with men. Women in general have stronger emotional skills--women do better at reading situations and knowing what is and isn't appropriate, and it's ingrained in women from a very young age. Men don't have that forced upon them as children, good old "boys will be boys" and "boys don't cry" and thus men never attempt to develop any sense of emotional intelligence.
If this forces men to develop a sense of emotional IQ, that's a very good thing
This is not about small lapses in judgement. This is not about one dirty joke that was spoken in the wrong company. The men who are actually being brought down are bad people doing bad things for a very long time, not good people making a dumb mistake one time.
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I agree with most of of what you are saying. The bolded part is a just simply an opinion. That's not a fact, I'd argue that men aren't worse at reading situations, have weaker emotional skills or don't know know what's inappropriate. That's bull and its an easy out. You're right men are taught to not publicly show emotion etc, but that doesn't mean they don't have as much emotional intelligence. It means they deal with it in a different way. It's that kind of thinking that causes problems.
I agree with you, most of these men have a history and its good that this stuff is coming out and hopefully men that have similar attitudes change their ways. The MP involved in the threesome comment is ridiculous. Inappropriate, but it's an over the top reaction.
However I think women behave this way a lot. A lot. Men just don't react to it as much. Remember what you posted above, taught not to show emotion, act tough etc. That doesn't mean it doesn't affect them though. I had a female colleague today make a comment that weirded me out a little bit. I tend to over analyze everything so it bounces around in my head for a longer than it should and I eventually I shake it off. Doesn't mean it didn't mess with me for a bit. I'd never ever say anything because overall it's not a big deal at all, but someone a little more emotional might.
Again this is just nit picking because I agree with almost everything you're saying and I don't think most people are arguing in favour of guys with a history or ones that clearly cross the line. Those are are pretty open and shut.
The dating stuff, well I have no idea about any of that anymore, but I don't remember having issues when I was dating with reading the situation.
